Every day when you wake up, you have a choice. You can choose to be a grouchy jerk or you can choose to be positive. Simple as that.
No one has a perfect life, perfect spouse, perfect dog…you get the picture. We all have LIFE to handle. How you handle it is what makes a difference. One way that you can help to improve your life is to be grateful which can lead to happiness.
Having an attitude of gratitude has been scientifically proven to have health benefits. “Cultivating an “attitude of gratitude” has been linked to better health, sounder sleep, less anxiety and depression, higher long-term satisfaction with life and kinder behavior toward others, including romantic partners” from the New York Times.
A good way to start being grateful is to make a list each night of five things that you are grateful for on this day. Keeping this gratitude journal will be a quick task each day but can have great benefits. The study conducted by Robert Emmons showed “people keeping the gratitude journal were more optimistic and felt happier.”
How to Attract Positive Relationships from Psychology Today discusses “how four laws of energetic attraction can improve your life. The more positive energy we give off, the more we'll receive. Ditto for negativity. It works like this: Love attracts love. Grumpiness attracts grumpiness. Passion attracts passion. Rage attracts rage.
First, define what being positive does and doesn't mean for you in terms of attitude and behavior. Don't worry if you're far from a positive place. It's an evolution. Give thought to what you value most in yourself or other. You can then strengthen these traits in yourself, and attract the same.” The four laws from the article:
- We attract who we are.
- Intuition clarifies smart choices.
- Seeing the best in people magnetizes them.
- Soulful giving generates abundance.
Frank Eliason had this to say “I have been watching conversations via social media becoming more snarky and personal attacks seem to be growing. I do not think most people do this, but what has occurred is we attract people with many of our same ideals which further validate our position. Then when others question this position we go on the attack. Often times social media is referred to as a cocktail party, but when would you call someone an idiot or worse things, while at a cocktail party? Okay some of you might, but I think most of us would be more respectful of their views, and often be open to listening.”
Being positive is a choice that we make with every tweet, post or comment. Sure, the snarky comment may seem funny at the time but being “funny” at the expense of hurting another person is wrong. If you are having a bad day, please choose not to go on social media and spew your negativity. No one wants to hear it. You will be doing yourself a favor by waiting until your mood has improved. Your social voice is heard by many and is long lasting.
“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” The Dalai Lama
Scott Monty says … “Oh sure, there are still trolls who hide behind fake identities on a variety of sites, from forums to blogs and even Facebook and Google+ now. But the this behavior has become so insidious – so acceptable – that suddenly, some people don't care who they offend or how antisocial it makes them look; they just seem to want to make themselves feel better by putting others down.
Did you ever hear the phrase nani gigantum humeris insidentes? Of course you didn't. It's Latin; no one speaks it any more. But you may recognize its translation: “Dwarves standing on the shoulders of giants.” It was famously uttered by Sir Isaac Newton and signifies that we owe much to those who have gone before. Essentially, it's about respect.”
“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. ” The Dalai Lama
From Frank again … “Driving change by recognizing the positive can help send a message and have just as strong an influence as the negative. I think it is time for us to lead this!”
If you encounter rude or negative people, you don't need to take their abuse or absorb their negative attitude. Stick with your decision to be a positive person and know that every person will not be liked by every other person. That is just not going to happen and that is fine. Remember you control who you talk to, who is in your circle and who you share your community with each day. Don't respond in anger or snarkiness, but instead be the better, bigger person and move on. Block them, unfriend them or whatever you feel comfortable with doing but make a thoughtful choice and move forward. Being friendly and happy doesn't mean that you are a doormat.
Seth Godin addressed this in his post You won't benefit from anonymous criticism: “I'm arguing that it's a positive habit to deliberately insulate yourself from this feedback. Don't ask for it and don't look for it. Yes, change what you make to enhance delight. No, don't punish yourself by listening to the mob.”
Please join me and be a positive leader and make a difference with your message. Use the hashtag #PositivelySocial on August 14th and be aware that words can hurt but more importantly lift others, boost their mood and have a positive impact on others.
Your kindness and positive spirit will touch others and bounce right back to you. Let me know if you participate in #PositivelySocial and how it affects you. I hope that you make the choice to be #PositivelySocial every day.
Please let me know if you participate in #positivelysocial and if it has a positive effect on you. I hope that if you need some help getting a positive attitude that you check out some of the resources here.
A few positive resources:
A Day to be #PositivelySocial by Frank Eliason
When Did We Get So Nasty? By Scott Monty
A Serving of Gratitude May Save the Day from The New York Times Science section
Featured image courtesy of Thomas Hawk via Creative Commons.