Are you your own worst critic? If your internal dialog is killing your momentum towards reaching your goals and being happy, it's time to stop the pattern.
Here are five things that you can do to stop the negative chatter:
1. Be aware — pay attention to what you are saying to yourself. If you start being negative, stop yourself and move on. Dwelling on negative thoughts is not going to help you.
2. Call a friend — run the scenario that's going through your head by your best friend. They'll either tell you your being silly, offer a suggestion or maybe just listen.
3. Take a big breath. Just breathe for a bit. Being stressed can cause tension so take a moment away from the computer, your desk or the kids if possible. Concentrate on something positive that you have to be grateful for and restart your positive clock.
4. Try some pet therapy — take your dog for a walk or pet your cat. They're great listeners. Studies have proven that spending time with your pet can spark some “feel good hormones” which will certainly help.
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5. Do something nice for someone else. Helping others gets you out of your own head and into a great frame of mind.
So, the bad news is that you are your worst bully but the good news is that you can change it. Having the power to change your internal dialog is a pretty darn big gift. I hope you use it well.
What do you do when you're having negative thoughts? What gets you to snap out of it?
I’m sharing this with my 16-year-old son. He is his own worst critic!
DanaSullivanKilroy The teen years are very tough as you try to fit in and stand out at the same time.
So many people suffer from negative self-talk that I wonder how it happens. I know I have to fight it constantly. May I also had that when negative thinking appears, it really helps to switch your mind to something that makes you happy. Holding a picture of a place you like, an accomplishment, praise you received, etc. for several seconds can really calm your mind.
Thanks for this helpful post and I love the quote you put in it.
patricia_haag I’m so happy that you liked it Patricia. I think that we all have a tendency to do it and need to watch ourselves. I like your suggestions too.
susansilver How fantastic for you to be able to look back at the last year and see yourself reaching your goals! I hope that the next year brings more growth from your hard work and positive thinking. 🙂
dbvickery Being a perfectionist is a blessing and a curse, right? I don’t know why we are so hard on ourselves but I am too. When I make a mistake, I really beat myself up over it.
Something to work on for sure!