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Be Part of the Solution!

 - by Peg

heart rock 300x225 Be Part of the Solution!So many times things bother us and what is our reaction: complain! We can easily fall into this habit, how easy is it to DM or call your friend and unleash your negative thoughts?  Of course, talking with friends is stress relieving and does make things better however; consider how that negative energy spreads to others. Don’t be the vampire friend that sucks the energy from your friends and family. Strive to be a person that people are excited to see on their caller ID or in their inbox.

This quote from Mother Teresa inspires me constantly “Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.”

I urge you to stop, think and not spread the negativity. Have a problem at work or with your spouse? Think about the problem, break it into small pieces and see how YOU can turn it around. Instead of turning that snowflake into a snowball or worse yet an avalanche, take a breath and contemplate. Social Media amplifies emotions both good and bad. Rehashing the same negative story over and over again is not changing it or improving it, you are just propagating the negative energy and giving it a home.

Bouncing ideas off people in whom you trust and that care about you is gift, don’t abuse it. These fabulous people see things in you that you might not recognize at the moment. Trust your best friends and heed their advice, hopefully you have a few people who know you well and can help you sort through life when issues pop up. However; don’t be part of the problem, be part of the solution! This goes for your own life  as well as your friends. Communicating with your family and friends, sharing in the joy and disappointment in life is a big part of our relationships but consider how you leave people feeling once the conversation is over.

What ways do you have to handle problems or issues that arrive? How do you help your friends and family when they come to you? Are you part of the solution for a more positive life for you and friends?

Photo courtesy of Melina.via creative commons.

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  • http://fingercandymedia.com/ Jessica Northey

    I heard this once if you don’t know who the “drama king/queen” in your life is…it’s probably you. Put down the tiara and be the person you want others to be.

    No one wants to hear your woes over and over and rehashed again. Here’s a thought, call  people when the good things happen. Get down on your knees and pray to God when bad happens. Usually a spiritual solution will help a human problem and when you talk to your friends you will come from a place of love. just saying.Love you, love your blog. Long time listener. Good shiznit today peggers! xo

    • Anonymous

      This is perfect Jessica “Here’s a thought, call  people when the good things happen. Get down on your knees and pray to God when bad happens.” Thanks for your inspiration and positive spirit!
      *mwah* Peggy

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  • Reem

    Great Article!!!!!..Has a lot of spiritual guidance.Hope to always follow it in one’s everyday life.As for myself,I always try to be part of the solution,not the problem.Thank you.

    • Anonymous

      Thank you so much for your kind comments!
      Peggy

  • Lois

    What a great post! Your Mother.Theresa quote is one of my favorites. Nothing is as disarming as a positive attitude! (my quote).

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Lois! Love your quote – I agree with that. People are taken back by a positive attitude.

      Cheers,
      Peggy

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  • http://twitter.com/sleeeping sleeeping

    Loved the post!  This is something that I’m going to be working on this year.  I often feel when something is bothering me, I need to get it out, like when you need to vomit out food poisoning.  But I know that’s not always best for those around me and am working to find other ways to deal with stress and those that dole it out, other than venting it out.  I’m thinking there will be a lot of writing and throwing away in my future :-)

    • Anonymous

      Ahh such a good suggestion. I have written things out and put them through the shredder. It feels great! 

      Best of luck to you and sending positive thoughts for success!
      Peggy

  • http://soulati.com/blog Soulati

    I’m teaching my daughter to live with a loving heart. It’s a journey. We are an untrusting society without respect for others’ emotions or states of mind. When we focus outward on others, our own pain becomes more manageable.

    • Anonymous

      Such a beautiful sentiment Jayme! Life’s lessons can be hard when viewed through the parent lens and wanting to protect our children.

      Life certainly is a journey!
      Appreciate your thoughts.
      Peggy

  • http://twitter.com/Natasha_D_G Natasha Gabriel

    “Vampire friend” – That really puts it into perspective. My approach has always been – “learn to paddle your own canoe.” My Mom taught me this and I’ve passed that mentality down to my daughter. Deep breath, roll with the punches and make the best of the situation.  Strangely enough my friends accuse me of being too independent/proud but I don’t think my problem should become their weight.  Love this outlook especially given the fact that the energy you take to complain you can apply to fixing.

    • Anonymous

      Sounds like your Mom was full of awesome wisdom Natasha! How lucky for you to have absorbed all that fabulousness – definitely helped create the awesome Natasha that you are today. So appreciate you everyday.
      Peggy

  • http://twitter.com/PaulBiedermann Paul Biedermann

    Thanks for making us all stop and think for a moment, Peggy. And thanks again, for helping me take that deep breath when I so needed it the other day!

    Paul

    • Anonymous

      That’s what friends are for, right? 
      Thank YOU!

      Peggy

  • Madhurima Mathur

    Really an inspiring article! LOVE is undoubtedly the principle of existence. Let’s fill everyday with LOVE which is the way to God. 

    • Peg

      So happy you liked it – I appreciate you adding your thoughts.

  • Marc Zazeela

    Always love Peggy and her pos attitude! Whining and complaining may make you feel better, right now. A month from now the problem will still be there for you  to whine and complain about all over again.

    That is, of course, unless you choose to do something about it instead! If folks spent half the energy they put into complaining, into fixing things instead, they would likely end up much much happier.

    No one likes to be the sounding board for incessant whining and complaining. Sure, if we are friends you can cry on my shoulder if you need to. When it becomes a regular event, it gets tiring rather quickly.

    Cheers,
    Marc

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